A letter to myself about trust

Dear Me

You’ve had a couple of really intense weeks where people have shown themselves to be untrustworthy.

That’s on them, and not on you.

You spent the early years of your life being told that you were wrong to think and feel the way you did. Because you felt different, you believed them when they said you were wrong. This makes you look for reasons within yourself when people prove themselves untrustworthy.

When you look for reasons within yourself for people betraying your trust, you start looking at your friends. You start wondering whether you have misjudged them. You start analysing their every action and word looking for clues. Those clues might tell you whether they really are as trustworthy as you think they are.

That’s unfair – that’s unfair on them and it’s unfair on you.

As much as you want to believe that everyone is trustworthy, the truth is they’re not. But, it’s unfair to expect people who are trustworthy to prove themselves once again because other people have hurt you. The people who have shown themselves to be untrustworthy – that’s a reflection of them. it’s not a reflection of you, and it’s not a reflection of your friends.

It is ok to trust. It is ok to make yourself vulnerable by trusting. You may end up getting hurt, but when you do, know that you didn’t do anything wrong by believing that people can be good.

So, one day, when you’re feeling hurt and vulnerable and suspicious of everyone, come back and read this and remember: That’s on them, and not on you.

Be kinder to yourself. It’s going to be ok.

Love,
Me