21/12/2016: It has come to my attention that many people are finding this post because they are googling “meltdown bingo”. If you arrived here after doing that, I beg you to consider why you think making a game out of a truly distressing experience is somehow fun. I would also like to advise you that you will not find a meltdown bingo card in this post, so if that was your goal, go elsewhere.
Dear the Mighty
I’ve always referred to you as The Mighty (Awful) because that is exactly what you are: Mighty awful.
Today, however, is the final straw.
You have published articles written by autistic people which talk about ableism, and how that effects our lives on a daily basis, and then you go do this? [edited: article has been removed]
You think meltdowns are funny? Do you laugh at other distressing situations, or is it only when autistic children are involved?
From the article:
“As all special needs parents know, the holiday season brings a significant amount of schedule and routine changes.”
Guess what parents of autistic children: You don’t actually have to participate in every single holiday season event. You can opt out of them to reduce the amount of overwhelm your child experiences. You won’t miss out on anything! Read this to find out how you can do that.
From the article:
“With two (and probably three) autistic people in our family, myself included, we try to maintain a sense of humor and perspective with the many challenges we face, and this was a product of that.”
You can maintain a sense of humour without publicly shaming your child. You can keep these in-family jokes in-family.
I notice that the creator of this post has played the “I am autistic” card. Guess what? That doesn’t exempt you from criticism from other autistic people: you may share our neurology, but you do not share our culture. You may think that this openly talks about your challenges. It doesn’t. It talks about your son’s challenges. It denies him the right to dignity and privacy. It uses him as an object in your story. You want to share your challenges as an autistic person? Then, share those challenges. Don’t share your son’s.
From “why we created The Mighty“:
“Could we build a media company that actually helps people?”
How do you think sharing this article helps people? It perpetuates the stigma we, as autistic people, experience on a daily basis. How is that helpful?
I thought that when I created the Autism Parent Bingo card I was being too harsh. I now realise that I wasn’t harsh enough.
The Mighty, you disgust me. You disgust me with your ableism. You disgust me with the way in which you think that it’s ok to mock autistic children. Your readers disgust me with their attitudes too.
You think that sharing these click bait articles is good for business? You think that perpetuating stigma is great for debate? Your actions have real consequences on the lives of real people.
Yours in absolute disgust,
Feel free to co-sign this.
- The Mighty removed the Meltdown Bingo card. I previously linked to a PDF version of the page for people who wanted to see what I was talking about, but I have realised that people are using the PDF to “play” bingo. If you came here with that intention, please leave quietly and do not return until you can fully comprehend how awful you are.
- While I appreciate that they did remove the article, the comments in my letter still stand given that they even considered publishing it.
- The Mighty also offered this apology, and requested feedback. I have emailed them despite my misgivings that they truly want to change which are based on the founder’s response to this letter.
- Following the apology and the request for feedback, Alice Wong of the Disability Visibility Project suggested tweeting using the hashtag #CrippingTheMighty.
- If you’re reading this, and you’re tired of the way in which The Mighty perpetuates the stigma that autistic people face, please consider signing this petition.
This is not the first time that The Mighty has been negatively reviewed by people within the disability community. Please refer to these posts:
Because of the above three posts, I have never considered submitting anything to The Mighty, so this letter, despite accusations, was never about any retaliation for having my writing rejected by The Mighty.
Other bloggers have also written about this particular situation, so if you would like to read more, please refer to:
- 30 Days of Autism
- A Heart made Fullmetal
- Catch these Words
- Cracked Mirror in Shalott
- Crippled Scholar
- David Parry
- Emma Pretzel
- Paginated Thoughts
- Radical Neurodivergence Speaking
- Silence Breaking Sound
- That Crazy Crippled Chick
- Thoughts from an Autistic Vegan
- We Always Liked Picasso Anyway
If I have neglected to include any posts, please let me know in the comments, and I will add them.