Un-Boxed Brain

Not “just quirky”

I see a lot of comments, memes, books – heck even entire therapy centres – themed around the idea that autistic children are “just quirky.” This has always irritated me, but I haven’t quite been able to articulate the reasons why it’s an irritating phrase. This article finally helped me understand part of why just quirky annoys …

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Floating in Endless Space

Originally published on Respectfully Connected My son and I have not been in the chilled out space that we are usually in. We’ve lost the rhythm that is usually present in our family. But I’ve finally realised the problem: Neither of us have a special interest at the moment. This has never happened to us before. …

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I’m on your side

I was in the middle of a discussion with someone who was expressing really bigoted beliefs when they typed these magic words: “I’m on your side.” This is not the first time that someone has insisted that they’re on my side when they’re very clearly not. That there are opposing sides regarding the non-radical suggestion that all …

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Talking about needs without dehumanising

[CN: Functioning labels] I’ve written about functioning labels before. I would encourage anyone to follow the links contained in those posts because I’m not going to repeat them here. My problem with functioning labels is that they they are harmful. People think they mean that some of us don’t need any support, while some of …

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Embrace being weird

I see many posts and memes that say things along the lines of “autistic people are not weird.” I understand the intentions. I understand that these are created to promote acceptance of autistic people, but every time that I see one of these types of memes and posts, I think “but I am.” I’m not …

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