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How To Be An Ally (Part 1)

This post is inspired by a collection of things that have happened over the past few weeks. I have seen people, who appear to genuinely want to be allies to autistic people, stuff up and stuff up big. So hopefully this list is useful.
1. Don’t explain your perspective as a neurotypical person to autistic people

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I have a “special talent”

One of the more irritating things about parenting an autistic child is the question do they have a special talent? If I’m in a snarky mood, I reply that my son can recite every single episode of a specific TV show perfectly. When I’m feeling less snarky, I explain that savant skills are really not a great concept.

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Making a Connection

A few years ago, my son’s former Occupational Therapist recommended a social skills program. My son attended one session of the six week program. They focused on “making a connection”. That was code for insisting that autistic children make eye contact, so I withdrew him from that program.
But making eye contact is not the focus of this post.