Text says: Where did I go? Grey text on an old fashioned computer disk over an image of an old computer and mouse.

Where did I go?

I went inside my head.
I temporarily “shut up shop” on social media about a week because all-the-things-everywhere became too much.
I needed some downtime, some time away from everything and everyone. I had noticed that everything I read made me cry, want to throw up or throw something, or a combination of all of that.

Text says: I stand with Kassiane. Dark green text on a white rectangle over a light green textured background.

I stand with Kassiane

A thing happened over the weekend, and I expected that people in my community would say “this is not ok”, and a notable few did, but the large majority didn’t.
This was horrible for me, because I’m just a baby activist, and if the community doesn’t rally around someone who has given them so much,

Text says: There is another way, and it is full of love and joy. Dark green text on a white rectangle over a brown-coloured image of glass hearts.

There is another way

I no longer feel alone as a parent of an autistic child, but there was a time when I did.
When my son was first identified as autistic, I looked for parents in similar situations. This is probably the natural thing to do. But I did not find supportive places.

Text says: I am hurting. White text on a grey circle over a solid brown background.

I am hurting

[CN on link: martyr mom, functioning labels, extreme ableism and all the horribleness that can’t be put into words]
Recently, an article was published in Huffington Post which I will link to for the benefit of those who haven’t come across the awfulness yet, but I’m linking an archived version [Please note CN above]

Text says: 1. Functioning labels are completely inaccurate and ableist. 2. Acceptance is not conditional. 3. People who make conditional acceptance statements assume too much. Black text on a white square on a yellow-green watercolour textured background.

But, what about ‘those other autistic kids’?

[CN: Functioning labels; Example of racism]
People can be very predictable. Because interpreting social situations as they occur is problematic for me, I tend to focus on patterns to predict people’s responses. People inevitably fulfill those patterns.
One very noticeable pattern is the reaction that people have to posts or memes that call for acceptance, or call out ableist and ignorant attitudes.