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Making a Connection

A few years ago, my son’s former Occupational Therapist recommended a social skills program. My son attended one session of the six week program. They focused on “making a connection”. That was code for insisting that autistic children make eye contact, so I withdrew him from that program.
But making eye contact is not the focus of this post.

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Respect the NO!

My son has every right to say no to me, and when he does I respect that.
There are times when I will ask him why he has said no. Often I’ll find out that I haven’t been clear in the way in my communication. That gives us the opportunity to work together to find a compromise that works for both of us.

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Would I share my child’s worst day?

Parents of Autistic children are often told that in order to access support services, you need to base your story on your child’s worst day. I have heard this many times. I have often had applications for services and support declined because I didn’t tell them about my son’s worst days.